Why people who constantly judge speak out of resentment

Those who base their lives on criticizing others have a serious self-esteem problem.

One of the aspects of today's society is that we now have more means to observe each other. The Internet and social media have made it so that there is a lot of information posted about everyone and it is very easy to know bits and pieces about people we have never even spoken to.

Most people have learned to adapt to this change by trying to use it to their advantage: i.e., seeing it as an opportunity to reach more people, to reach out to more people, to reach out to more people, to reach out to more people, to reach out to more people. an opportunity to reach out to more people, expand friendships, or pursue job and or pursue employment and business options. Regardless of whether we want to make use of this kind of tools, the option is there, and in any case, we are not looking to harm anyone: just to improve ourselves in some aspect through the way we relate to others.

However, there are those who view social relationships from the opposite perspective. Instead of taking advantage of the many ways to connect with others that the present offers, they prefer to spend much of their free time expressing negative attitudes about the people around them. These are the people who constantly and systematically judge and criticize others. and systematically. In this article we will talk about why they act this way and how we can learn from them how not to approach our personal relationships.

This is what people who judge others are like.

Let's start with the basics: how to recognize people who are always criticizing others on a daily basis? Among the characteristics and habits that define them, the most typical ones are the following (they do not occur all at once in all cases, obviously).

1. They want to seduce others through criticism.

It may sound contradictory, but the habit of always passing judgment on others can serve to to establish informal bonds between people.. Bonds that are similar to friendship.

How does this happen? On the one hand, always going against others but at the same time having dealings with a person gives the idea that this person is better than the vast majority. By omission, the fact that someone who always criticizes others tolerates our presence and even seems to enjoy it can make us feel good.

On the other hand, the fact of feeling judged by someone close to us, added to the above, makes us believe that the person who always criticizes others tolerates our presence and even seems to enjoy it, can make us feel good. that person who is always criticizing us can help us detect our weaknesses, making it easier to overcome our weaknesses.This makes it easier to overcome them. The reasoning goes as follows: others do not have the opportunity to have someone around to correct them, but we do, so we must be privileged.

Something that indicates that this is a subtle form of manipulation is the fact that although vexatious comments or attempts at ridicule are frequent (which is supposed to help us recognize our own faults), the idea that the person who throws these daggers at us would also help us to overcome these supposed imperfections is unimaginable.

2. They are incapable of focusing a discussion on the arguments.

When it comes to discussing a topic constructively, judgmental people tend to direct their comments towards negative characteristics. direct their comments towards negative characteristics that supposedly presents the opponent as a person: the ad hominem fallacy is their undoing, even if they were initially defending the correct option.

3. They use any excuse to ridicule

A risky style, an action that deviates slightly from social conventions or an opinion that simply does not match one's own are grounds for mockery or to be used to "read that person's mind" and attribute to him or her all sorts of imperfections of intelligence or personality.

These comments may be more or less witty depending on the case, but what is clear is that they are irrelevant and speak about characteristics or facts that are of little relevance.

4. In social networks, little subtlety in criticism

On the Internet, people who judge others habitually feel they have the extra protection of anonymity, so they take advantage of it to unleash their cruelty.so they take the opportunity to unleash their cruelty. This means that they leave all kinds of derogatory comments, in full view of everyone, knowing that the negative impact of this kind of publication is more notorious: everyone may know who is the target of the criticism, but it is not very clear who is issuing it.

Moreover, since the Internet is usually a place where avoiding a rational discussion or debate does not have a high cost (unlike a face-to-face dialogue, where it is always clear who wants to stop intervening) these criticisms are simple and unsophisticated, since they do not have to give rise to an exchange of opinions. They are little more than insults that are elongated through several words placed to form a sentence.

Why do they criticize so much?

There are many reasons that can lead a person to constantly criticize others, but several of them are particularly common. The main one is that judging another in a superficial way is an easy and simple way to feel superior to someone else. is an easy and simple way to feel superior to someone and, by comparison, to feel better about oneself. and, by comparison, to feel better about oneself.

When one of these people formulates a thought aimed at bringing another person down (either by uttering it out loud or keeping it to themselves), they are actually trying to temporarily escape the wreckage that is their own self-esteem.

The most negative thing about these people is not what happens when they think in negative or demeaning terms about someone else, since these kinds of ideas are so simple and unelaborated that no one needs to take them seriously. The most negative thing is what is going on during the rest of the time in their own mind, namely, the reign of resentment that totally subdues self-esteem.

In the same way that those who obsessively think about an idea that causes them anxiety try to desperately seek distractions, such as binge eating, drug use or even cutting their skin, there are those who try to rescue their self-image for a brief moment by creating the fiction that they are far above someone else.

That is why, at a time when ego battles are the order of the day, it is wise not to take these outbursts of contempt for others as normal. those outbursts of contempt for others with which some people try to be noticed by others and by themselves. Those who need to throw dart at others to keep themselves afloat are clearly showing that they have nothing to offer and can only ask for help.