4 tips to overcome anxiety and take control of your life

Some tips that may be useful for you to face the most anxious moments.

What is anxiety? Throughout my experience I have been able to reach different conclusions about what anxiety is for me. But one of the definitions that I like the most is: anxiety is the accumulation of a series of emotions that have not been transcended or managed at the time..

Next I am going to develop a little more this phrase that so much I like so that this way it can be understood and integrated in a clearer way.

Understanding anxiety

When we are very small nobody teaches us what emotions are, what role they play in our life and how to recognize them so we can manage them at the time and avoid that they remain accumulated in the form of stagnant energy in our body.

And what happens next? Well, we become adults, and suddenly we wake up we wake up living a life in which we don't recognize ourselves; one in which we live automaticallyone that we live automatically and without stopping for a second.

We wake up, we automatically look at our cell phone, we soak ourselves in information external to us while having breakfast, we go to a job where we cannot express ourselves authentically and where we do not feel valued, and we go home extremely tired and without a shred of energy to continue with the rest of our day.

Until one day, when you least expect it? BOOM, you explode! Your first anxiety attack on the way to work. Although at the time you didn't know it was a panic attack because you were too busy trying to guess what was happening to your body, and probably thinking you were going to die right then and there.

And what do you think happened to your body? It just couldn't take it anymore! After the fifty thousand signals that it has been sending you throughout your life and which you have ignored, there has come a moment in which it has told you either stop or I will stop you. it has told you to either stop or I will stop you..

The body is the subconscious, and the subconscious is the body. Your subconscious has been sending you signals through your body all along, but you have not known how to recognize them.

It's not your fault; as I said before, no one teaches us to identify these signals, no one teaches us how to identify these signals, nor do we come with a manual on how life works.. On the contrary, we live in a selfish society in which we are valued by the job we have, how much we charge or the social status we have.

In the end all this generates a lot of pressure and demands unconsciously, and we feel an "obligation" to continue in a job we hate (even experiencing high levels of anxiety or panic attacks daily in the workplace) because if we quit, it seems that we have already abandoned everything we once fought for..

But really this is just one more lie your ego is telling you so that you don't face your demons and continue in your uncomfortable comfort. The truth is that you don't want to face those demons because you are afraid of change. afraid of change and you are afraid of uncertainty, and that prevents you from taking action in your life.

What to do.

It is not your fault that you have reached this point, it is not your fault that anxiety has appeared in your life, but it is your responsibility to do something about it. it is your responsibility to do something about it and take control of your current situation. And for this I will explain below the 4 steps to follow to take responsibility for your reality and live a much more fulfilling and authentic life.

1. Be aware of your thoughts

Your negative thought patterns come from limiting beliefs. that have been created by past experiences, by the society we live in and by mom and dad (the way you were raised).

Identify if those beliefs are really yours or coming from other sources and start to dismantle them to really know where they come from.

2. Don't identify with those thoughts

When we identify with our ego and we believe those thoughts that do not let us move forward is when there are limitations. It is true that no one has explained to us what the ego really is and how it operates in our psyche, but I assure you that it always operates from fear and never from love.

3. Be aware of your body

Emotions or sensations in the body are preceded by thought.So in this way we will be able to identify when we have created anxiety (because we have observed the thought). It is also true that sometimes thoughts go so fast that we do not realize and we already feel anxiety; nothing happens, I explain it in the next point.

4. Connect with the feeling

When you already find yourself with anxiety in your body, look at what part of the body you feel more intense and connect with that area.. Simply allow yourself to feel it without ignoring it, distracting yourself with something or avoiding it; try to find a quiet place and sit down, inhaling and exhaling deeply and letting it be. You can also repeat to yourself "everything is fine inside me, this is momentary or I have the resources to get out of this situation".

Concluding...

I hope this article has helped you to go deeper into yourself and that you start practicing the four steps so that anxiety does not limit you in your day to day life. Remember that this is a process and that how you talk to yourself is very important when it comes to overcoming the different challenges that life presents to you.