45 open-ended questions to get to know a person’s mind.

Great questions to get a conversation flowing right from the start.

You don't need to be a psychologist to try to find out what the people we interact with are like and why they think a certain way. and why they think a certain way.

When we meet new people, the first thing we do is investigate their tastes or concerns. In addition, if the person interests us, we will want to know more about their past, their future and how they behave with other people.

Open-ended questions to find out how a person thinks

If you want some examples of open-ended questions that will give you information about the person in front of you, here is a list of questions that will give you information about the person in front of you. a list of interrogative phrases that may be useful to you..

What is the difference between living and existing?

Living and existing are not the same thing. To exist is the fact of having life. Living is more than that. It is to enjoy one's existence, to fight for what fulfills one and for one's dreams. Living in the moment, in the here and now.

2. What do you hate the most in a person? Why?

We all have our virtues and our defects. There are things we all hate in others: acting in bad faith, being dirty...

3. What would you do differently if you knew that no one would judge you?

To a greater or lesser extent, we all want to give an image to others. If no one saw you or judged you, what would you do?

4. What is the most important promise you have ever made to yourself?

It is possible that at some point in your life you have made some sort of commitment to yourself, for example, to lose weight or achieve some other goal.

5. How can we have healthy relationships?

Relationships are not easy, because each partner has his or her own vision of life. For relationships to be successful, they need to be worked on.

• If you want to know how to do it, you can read our article: "The 7 keys to have a healthy relationship".

What is the meaning of life?

This type of question invites reflection and makes the person become more aware of who he/she is and what he/she is looking for in life.

7. How do you measure life?

What is the most important thing in our life? What do we value most and what do we value least? These are questions that make us think about our self-esteem and how we interpret what others think of us.

8. Are you in control of your life?

During our life, we can go through ups and downs.. It's normal and it's something that can make us grow. Asking someone this question makes them reflect on their current situation.

9. Why do you sometimes behave this way?

People are strongly influenced by the situation, and we do not always act well. For example, at times when we live in a stressful situation, we can easily become irritated. This question makes the person think about his or her behavior.

10. How can you change your life?

This question can bring out a person's fears, because change means getting out of the comfort zone and that is only suitable for people with guts.

11. Which three people inspire you the most? Why?

We all have role models in our lives. Those people from whom we have extracted their best virtues to try to apply them to ourselves.

12. Do you like to know what is happening in faraway places? Why?

This is a way to find out what the person's concerns are and what way of thinking he/she has about the events happening around him/her.

13. Y... Where would you go for an adventure?

Similar to the previous question, in the sense that it can provide experience about how the person sees the world and what experiences he or she might like.

14. When did you realize that you had entered adulthood?

The purpose of this question is to find out the person's level of maturity and responsibility. That is, if he/she is sincere in the answer.

15. What do you miss most about your childhood?

This is also a way to learn more about your maturity and to know your perception of childhood.

16. What kind of people would you be embarrassed to be seen with?

Some individuals think too much about what others think of them and therefore want to project a positive image at all costs. This question is a way to find out their degree of vanity.

17. What is your most vivid childhood memory?

Valuable information about the environment in which you were raised and about the things that may have marked you from your childhood.

18. Why do you find it hard to value things?

It is very difficult for us to value the things we have, since human beings naturally get used to it. This question can make the person reflect as well as give us information about how he/she thinks.

19. What kind of people do you feel most sorry for?

This question is intended to explore the empathy of the person interacting with us. And... what are empathetic people like? You can find out in our article: "Are you empathic? 10 typical traits of empathic people".

20. Do you consider yourself a sincere person? Why?

An interesting way to find out what a person thinks about sincerity and how he/she relates to other people.

21. Do you have any fears in life?

It is possible that the person you are talking to has some hidden fear or concern. This is a question for people close to you, for example, a boyfriend.

22. Have you ever been cruel or mean to someone?

Many of us think that others should always be good to us, however, at some point in our lives we have probably been inconsiderate to someone. For example, an ex-partner.

23. Why do you feel this way?

An open and direct question to find out what your level of emotional intelligence is. Emotional self-knowledge is necessary for emotional regulation.

24. How do we know if you are doing the right thing?

Each person has his or her beliefs and values. If you want to know how he thinks, you can ask him this question. See what he/she answers.

25. Which fictional character do you most identify with?

The individual who answers this question may express aspects of his or her personality and tastes in fiction.

26. From which members of your family have you learned the most?

Family members are the ideal role models. Parents, cousins, siblings... all of them can be a great inspiration for a person.

27. What is the most embarrassing thing your parents have ever caught you doing?

An intimate question that can make you understand what that person considers right or wrong and also what embarrassing situation they have experienced.

28. What is the biggest lie you have told and you have not been caught?

Although many of us find it hard to admit it, we have all told lies in our lives. There are different types of questions, pious, instrumental, compulsive... The intention of this question is not to detect a liar, but to know more about your life.

29. What do you like least about yourself?

Ideal to know how the person values him/herself and if he/she feels secure or insecure with the way he/she is.. You can also find out if the person has self-esteem problems.

30. What is the biggest rejection you have had in love?

Suffering heartbreak is one of the worst experiences we can go through, and some people suffer more than others. Love has a positive or negative influence on our self-esteem.

31. What is the most bizarre thing you have ever done while alone?

The person will only answer this question if the level of trust between the two interlocutors is very high.

32. Is there a secret you haven't told your parents?

There must also be a high level of trust between the two people for an individual to answer this question. This question can give information about the person's relationship with his or her parents.

33. What do you like most about yourself?

A good way to find out if the person values him/herself positively and to get to know his/her virtues.

34. What is the craziest thing you have ever done for love?

An ideal question if you are interested in someone in the love scene. It is a way to know if the person is romantic or not.

35. Do you consider yourself a happy person?

This question should be answered honestly, because there are many people who want to pretend to be happy all the time.

36. What is your limit in intimate relationships?

An intimate question that provides information about how the person thinks about intimate relationships. It is a way of knowing if they are liberal or conservative.

37. If you could erase one negative experience from your life, what would it be?

Not everything in life is rosy. There are situations that we have to go through that are hard. Although they make us grow as people, we have suffered them at some point. This question provides useful information to know if the person has accepted this hard moment in his or her life.

38. What would the perfect day be like for you?

Each person has his or her tastes and motivations, and what may be perfect for you does not have to be perfect for someone else. With this question it is possible to obtain information about the individual's hobbies, tastes and expectations.

39. In what situations would you be willing to lie?

A way to explore the person's honesty, although logically the individual will try to give a positive image of him/herself.

40. If you won the lottery, what would you spend the money on?

Winning the lottery can make us tremendously happy, but not everyone will spend the money on the same things.. One way to find out what their concerns are.

41. What is the last lie you have told?

Talking about one's lies can be quite uncomfortable, especially when the questions are recent.

42. Why don't you value the people who love you most?

If it has been previously mentioned that people get used to the objects they have, it is frequent that some individuals do not value the people close to them, because they take for granted that they will always be there.

43. Do you think life is unfair?

Life is not always fair to everyone. This question provides information about the person's interpretation of life and whether or not he/she is optimistic.

44. Do you think people change?

People can change. However, it is up to them to decide that it is time to change. The answer can provide information about whether the person is tolerant or not.

45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we afraid to make them?

A very true question that can make the person reflect deeply, as well as provide interesting information about how brave the person is.