7 tantric sex exercises to achieve maximum pleasure

We propose several postures and practices to enjoy a unique experience.

You may have heard the term "tantric sex" at some point in your life.. If you are not very knowledgeable in the matter, you may think it is something similar to the "Kamasutra". In reality, Kamasutra and tantric sex have nothing to do with each other.

While the first is a book in which a series of sexual postures appear, tantric sex refers to the practice of Tantra, which is an Indian philosophy that enhances the sexual experience.

Tantric sex: what is it?

In reality, Tantric sex as such does not exist, but there is Tantra. And although in the West it is associated with sexual practice, Tantra is a holistic experience with Buddhist origin. According to the belief system proposed by this philosophy or religion, this practice helps people to be aware of what surrounds them and what happens in their own internal energy.

It is based on existentiality and on the "here and now", that is, in the present moment. Indirectly, this attitude towards life affects sexuality, since it adopts a non-judgmental mentality, in which the person connects with his or her being and that of his or her partner. In this sense, tantric sex resembles experiences recently developed in the field of psychology, which are also inspired by meditation, such as Mindfulness.

Those who try to apply the principles of tantra to their sexual life, assume that Tantra allows them to live with greater freedom and helps them to develop their senses and the way they love others.. Also, thanks to being in the present moment, it would be synonymous of emotional connection, it is fusion with oneself and with our beloved. Tantra would intensify the sexual experience because it puts all the attention on the sexual practice. Mind and body merge and intensify the sensations and experience.

7 tantric sex exercises

As we have seen, to practice tantric sex it is necessary to practice Tantra, which goes beyond sexuality. And... how is it possible to do that?

In the following we will see several principles of tantric sex. we will see several principles of tantric sex to experiment with this practice, through a series of exercises that can serve to improve the sexual experience and, therefore, the pleasure derived from it. and, therefore, the pleasure derived from this act.

1. The sacred present

The present is undoubtedly the best way to connect with oneself. Putting the focus on the here and now means that our mind is not ruminating, so we can give ourselves more fully. In fact, if we focus on the past or on expectations, it is very difficult to achieve not only orgasm, but erection. For Tantra, the only time that exists is the present..

In this sense, in Tantric sex, people let go of desires and needs based on projection into the past and the future: thinking about the day after seeing that person in a non-sexual context, reflecting on "what will they say", etc.

In Tantra, the present is considered a sacred moment. To be able to put ideas, thoughts, memories and imaginations aside, it is necessary to open oneself to the experience of the person and become aware of the place, the situation, the skin of the partner, their hair, their smell... To open the door to the flow of sensations and energy between the two, it is necessary to focus the attention on the here and now. This is possible by practicing tantric breathing.

How to do it? Just before the sexual encounter, it is necessary to stand in front of the partner, naked, facing each other. Tantric breathing is used to quiet the self and control the inhalation and expiration, so that the attention is focused on the entry and exit of air through the nose. One should keep the eyes closed and do it for five minutes. When one has controlled one's breathing, it is time to connect with the other's breathing and merge both breaths. Then, our partner begins to be someone with whom we connect and enjoy the experience as a single entity.

2. Eye contact.

There are many people who are afraid to look directly into the eyes of another person, but a look says more than a thousand words.. Naked in front of each other, it is possible to increase the connection simply by maintaining sexual contact.

Not surprisingly, the tendency to seek eye contact with people is an innate characteristic of human beings, to the point that when this does not occur in the early stages of development, this is a sign that a disorder may exist. Our brain is trained to detect and recognize very small nuances in the movement of the muscles in the area of the other person's eyes, so much of nonverbal language relies on the act of interlocking gazes.

To achieve the connection, you just need to sit naked in front of your partner and decipher what he or she is feeling and what you are feeling. It's about being aware of what is happening in that special moment. Although it may feel awkward at first, you will end up baring your feelings. The rest will happen on its own.

• Do you want to know how two people who look at each other for four minutes behave? In this article you will be able to see it: "This is what happens when you keep looking at each other for 4 minutes (social experiment)".

3. Control of the chakras (energy centers)

Tantra puts the focus of attention on the chakras, which are the energy centers of the body.. This practice favors the energetic exchange between the members of intimate relationships, which from this philosophy are understood to be six. Three of the man (instinctive-sexual, emotional and mental-spiritual) and three of the woman.

These, likewise, contain several centers. For example, the instinctive-sexual is formed by: the root (1°) and the sexual (2°); and the emotional by the solar plexus chakra (3°), the Heart chakra (4°) and the laryngeal chakra (5°), among others. Each of these points has an impact on the sexual act.

In order to work the chakras, according to this set of religious beliefs, one must lie face down and the partner can then massage the whole body, from the feet to the first chakra, passing through the 7 main chakras. Then, the partner who was face down turns around and the other partner massages from the crown of the head to the feet. Once the entire body of one partner has been massaged, the two partners switch roles. Once they have experienced this massage, they are ready for the sexual encounter.

4. Exploration of the valley

Tantra is also known as the cult of the feminine.. The feminine refers to the archetypal characteristics regarding the vital experience of women, in the sense of tenderness, listening, gentleness and sensitivity, etc. Likewise, the woman is the creator of life, not only for having children, but also for the special care required in terms of cycles and time in sexual practice.

The tantric man has the predisposition to accompany and lend his essence for her enjoyment. This special attention to the woman's pleasure, in turn, will have repercussions on his own. To work it, the man must show an attitude of full attention and receptive attention to his partner's body: listen to it, perceive it, feel it with subtlety and in its totality. The woman's increased arousal will also bring immense pleasure to the man.

5. Discover a new universe

This point may seem similar to the previous one, but while the previous one pays attention to the signals that man receives from partner, or what in Tantra is known as Shakti, the goddess. This knowledge awakens the consciousness of the male (also called Shiva). But the human body is a universe to be discovered, and there are different erogenous zones that we can there are different erogenous zones that we can awaken and discover..

To do this, the members of the couple should take a blank sheet of paper and draw, each one, the body of the other both from the front and the back. Each partner colors with a different color the parts of his or her partner's body that he or she considers to be erogenous zones. Then they compare their ideas. In the next sexual encounter, they carry out their discoveries.

6. Different rhythms

Human beings have a great capacity for adaptation and habituation is innate to human beings. This makes it necessary to change the rhythms in the intimate encounter with the partner. Everything in nature changes, and the same should happen in sex. It is possible to use variety without the need to change partners.. Changing intensities and rhythms increases arousal energy and helps to have more intense orgasms.

A tantric exercise that can be practiced is the following. When the partners are in an intimate encounter, they should vary the rhythm and intensity of the caresses, especially in the erogenous zones. This should not only be done during foreplay, but also during intercourse. For example, it is possible to perform 6 soft penetrations and one deep penetration. It is also possible to perform a combination of 5-1, 4-1, 3-1, 2-1, 1-1 (where the first number is the soft penetrations and the second is the deep penetrations) and then start the sequence again.

7. Valley orgasm mastery

There are many people who are interested in Tantra to acquire a mastery of the ejaculatory process.When ejaculation occurs, the man loses physical energy and requires time for recovery.

Ejaculation is the result of what is understood as peak orgasm, that of short duration and ending in an explosion of energy. But the mastery of ejaculation leads to the valley orgasm, which is the orgasm of the whole body, which does not bring forward the end of intercourse because the erection does not give way and the clitoris can continue to be stimulated without discomfort.

Moreover, this aspect of tantric sex is characterized by non-genitality: orgasm is not sought as a result of friction, but is part of the connection with the other person in the present.

• More information: "Premature ejaculation and Psychology".

The valley orgasm is key to the greatest enjoyment of the relationship.. A tantric technique to improve the awareness of the ejaculatory moment is the practice of the perception of the previous instant, that is to say, to stop just at the moment when the person is going to ejaculate. After a few seconds, it is possible to return to the action. To favor the state of self-awareness, it is necessary to practice active listening to oneself and to detect the pleasurable sensations that lead to peak orgasm. First of all, the work is done alone. When there is a certain mastery, then work is done with a partner.