8 keys to know if your partner is unfaithful and cheating on you

Several warning signs to detect that something is not quite right in a romantic relationship.

Being faithful to your partner is, without a doubt, one of the basic pillars of a relationship. When trust is lost due to infidelity, it is difficult to get back on track and make the relationship work..

However, complicated is not the same as impossible, so some couples overcome this bump and manage to regain stability again.

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We are increasingly unfaithful

Scientific studies show that infidelities are on the rise, especially in the case of women. According to a recent article in El Confidencial, one in three women cheat on their partner.. This Spanish newspaper, with this news, echoed a study conducted by the French Institute of Public Opinion (IFOP).

The research involved a sample of 3,406 subjects, who were evaluated in terms of their motivations, their disposition and their resistance to adultery. The figures on female infidelity continue to grow. In 1970, only 10% of women claimed to have been unfaithful; in 2001, 24%, and in 2016, 33%.. In the case of men, the percentage of infidelity is similar to the latter, although the rate of infidelity has not varied so much in recent decades.

Summer, time for infidelity

As you can see, infidelity is on the rise, but we are not equally unfaithful at all times of the year. A survey conducted by the portal Second Lives, specialized in finding partners for infidelity, has also taken care to demonstrate the relationship between summer and extramarital affairs.

The results showed that during this time of the year the search for lovers increases by 40%. The survey counted 92% of the site's users, who said that they have more time and feel freer to commit infidelity during the summer season. The survey counted 92% of the site's users, who said that they have more time and feel freer to commit infidelity during the summer season..

Causes of infidelity

Likewise, in an article published in Infobae, psychologist Adriana Guraieb says that: "on vacations there is more time, bodies are more visible in the sun and alcohol can help to commit more infidelities. However, alcohol is not a reason for infidelity, but it is a facilitator in the sense that it disinhibits and favors those sexual desires that are hidden to come to light."

That said, what causes infidelity? Well, there are many reasons that can lead a couple to be unfaithful. Three of the most important are these:

• Communication problems.Good communication or empathy can help conflicts to be solved and, therefore, there is greater trust in the partners. Poor communication favors infidelity because conflicts can make couples look outside for what they cannot find in their relationship.
• MonotonyOther times it can be the monotony and the wear and tear caused by the routine that leads one of the two partners to want to have sex outside the relationship.
• Differences in the desire to have sexSome people are more passionate and fiery than others. Some can go for long periods of time without sex and others cannot.

How to know if your partner is cheating on you

Infidelities in relationships are frequent. However, they do not always end up being known.. Detecting an unfaithful partner is complicated, unless the person committing adultery leaves very obvious clues or is caught at the time and cannot deny it. In fact, most infidelity goes unnoticed or unproven, because the rules of the game tend to favor the cheaters.

But it is possible to know a number of signs that could indicate that something is going on outside the relationship. When I say "something may be going on" I mean that these clues are not 100% infallible, and the behaviors your partner displays may be due to other reasons, which should not be ruled out. So to be as objective as possible it is necessary to make an overall assessment taking into account what the person is like and what the situation is like.And of course, do not accuse anyone if there is no reliable evidence that fidelity is occurring.

Here are the clues that could indicate that an infidelity is taking place.

1. Visible signs

You happen to be doing the laundry and your partner's shirt is giving off a strong scent of women's perfume.Your partner comes home and has a lipstick stain on his or her collar or comes home from work with uncombed hair. These can be telltale signs that something may have happened. However, one single occasion is not enough to doubt someone. It would be different if this happens repeatedly.

2. Change of habits

You know your partner perfectly well because you have lived together for many years. But he/she has been behaving strangely for a few months now and has adopted habits that he/she did not have before.. For example, he checks his smartphone every day before going to bed and spends hours hooked to the device when he leaves work. On top of that, when you ask him who he talks to so much, he avoids answering you, is tense and hides conversations from you.

3. He doesn't know what he's answering or his stories don't match.

Not only is he tense or hides conversations, but when you ask him a question, such as "What did you do after work? he doesn't know what to answer or his explanations are not convincing enough..

4. He gets defensive

And of course, you are surprised by his behavior, so you ask him for clarification. Instead of acting calmly, knowing that he has nothing to hidehe gets angry and in the end avoids answering you. There is no reason to get like that, unless he is hiding something....

5. Change in routine

Not only does he change his habits and way of acting, but his routine seems to have changed. your routine seems to have changed. Now he has new hobbies, new interests, and lo and behold, he doesn't include you in any of his activities.

6. Long working hours

Unfaithful people tend to use work as an excuse.. If before he used to work his 8 hours a day, now he always leaves work later, he even has to go on a company trip and now he also works on Saturdays... These are some indicators that can make you suspicious of his true intentions.

7. He wants to go everywhere alone

Your relationship may not be at its best, but he has never behaved in such a way that he avoided your presence in many situations. Now he prefers to be alone in the room or go anywhere alone. Obviously everyone needs his or her space, but this is not the reason for his or her attitude..

8. He pays too much attention to his physical appearance

You pay too much attention to your physical appearance, you dress better, you use aftershave every day and even goes back to the gym despite having forgotten about it. He behaves the same way he did when he started the relationship with you, but over time he seemed to have forgotten about it.. This strange behavior may mean that he is trying to impress someone.