9 tips for regaining someone’s trust

Winning back that person's trust can be difficult... but not impossible.

Sandro and Sonia fell in love during their high school years. After college, they both found jobs. At 26, they had a stable life and decided to get married, so they consummated their marriage. But after more than ten years of an almost perfect relationship, their marriage went through a period of crisis, which led Sonia to be unfaithful.

When Sandro found out what had happened, he decided to separate from her. Sonia insisted and Sandro thought he could forget what had happened, so after a month of living apart, he decided to give her another chance. After three months they separated definitively because Sandro did not recover the confidence in Sonia..

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Loss of trust can mean the end of a relationship.

Interpersonal relationships, especially romantic ones, can go through bad times, especially when one person has lost trust in the other.

In fact, in both friendship and couple relationships, the lack of trust can lead to a total breakup, as the trust can no longer be regained.The lack of trust can lead to a total breakup, since the degree of intimacy that existed between the two parties can no longer be recovered.

9 tips to regain the trust of a person you care about.

Sometimes, we may regret something we have done that has meant that the other person no longer trusts us.. If you feel identified and want to regain the trust of that person you care so much, follow these tips:

1. Admit your mistake

Evidently the other person has lost confidence in you because you have done something wrong. So don't waste don't waste any more time trying to hide part of the story to make yourself look less bad.. If you want the other person to regain confidence in you, the first thing you must do is to assume that you were wrong and that you are at least partially to blame.

2. Talk about what made you do it

Now that you have admitted your mistake, it's time to talk about what made you do it.. This way the other person may even understand you. It is common for us to behave defensively when we have relationship problems, and many times the solution was simply communication. Talking about your feelings and thoughts on the subject can make the other person think again, because it is possible that he or she is also partly to blame for what happened.

3. Be humble

Being humble is an important part of regaining someone's trust.If you become defensive, the conflict may become even greater. Your goal is for you to be able to talk about what happened and for her to see you as a person who makes mistakes like any human being. So don't let her see you as a bad person. In fact, you may even have to bite your tongue at first to get him over the initial anger.

4. Be patient

If you want to regain someone's trust you need to let time pass and be patient.. If the person who means so much to you feels betrayed by the way you have behaved, you will need time for the wounds to heal. Don't expect everything to go back to normal overnight.

5. Make noticeable changes

If you have managed to get the other person to give you another chance, it is time to make noticeable changes and to show him/her that he/she was not wrong by trusting you again.. Now is the time to show, not only in words but also in deeds, how much you care about that person. In this way, he or she will not regret having forgiven you.

6. Recover communication

In point number 2 I talked about the need to talk about the problem. But now is the time to talk about the relationshipto recover the communication that may have been lost. Knowing the expectations of both of you and talking openly about any issue is the best way for the relationship to stay healthy. Remember that now it is easier for him to stop trusting you again.

7. Don't lie

And the reason why it is easier for her to stop trusting you is because you have given her reason for doubt. Now any lie will be seen as another big betrayal. So don't play with fire and be honest. Otherwise you will suffer the consequences of your actions.

8. Become an open book

Not lying is fine, but if you have nothing to hide, why not come across as an open book? Think that now it is easier for him to have thoughts and suspicions (sometimes unfounded) that you may be lying. Don't hide conversations on your cell phone or Facebook, let her see that you have nothing to hide.

9. Don't make the same mistake again.

If you have managed to get her to forgive you and trust you again, don't make the same mistake again.. Because if it is difficult to regain trust once it has been lost, if you make the same mistake again, you better forget about that person. You can follow the advice you have just read so that he/she will give you another chance, but rarely will he/she give you two chances for the same reason.