Anti-attraction: 7 gestures and attitudes of people who are not seductive

Some people are not able to connect with others. What are they doing wrong?

In other articles of Psychology and Mind we have talked about how people who attract and captivate us are. They are usually individuals who give off a certain magic and make us want to spend a lot of time with them. That emotional connection they awaken becomes almost irresistible, and the moments spent with them are moments that can become unforgettable.

But not everyone is attractive, and although we can all maximize our attractiveness and increase our chances of giving off that magnetism, there are people who carry out bad habits, some people have bad habits that reduce their chances of success..

When it comes to attractiveness, it's not all about the physique

Many people tend to associate attractiveness with physique, but when it comes to attractiveness, it's not all about looks. Surely we all know of cases of highly attractive people who could be with someone with a movie physique, but who, nevertheless, are with someone who at first glance does not look like a person with particularly striking physical features..

The needs of the person being seduced and, possibly, the special personality of the seducer can be reasons for one person to be attracted to another. Who is able to stop these individuals who are a knockout and, in addition, have great self-confidence? Obviously not everyone will like them, but most people probably will.

Gestures and attitudes of people who are not seductive

Of course, there are also people who are at the other extreme. People who, as far as attraction is concerned, do everything or almost everything wrong. And what habits or gestures do these people have? Well, they are usually people who:

1. do not believe in themselves

One of the reasons why someone is unattractive is: "they don't feel like an attractive person". It's as simple as that! People who don't believe in themselves are almost impossible to get others to believe they are attractive people..

These individuals are usually characterized by having such low self-confidence that it limits them when it comes to feeling comfortable with other people and showing their true personality, they don't know what your strengths are and may even pretend to be someone they are not.

To seduce, the first thing you must be clear about is that you have to believe in yourself, otherwise it is easy for everything to go wrong.

Recommended article: "False self-confidence: the heavy mask of self-deception".

2. They are not proactive

While people who feel attractive usually take the first step, anti-attractive individuals do the opposite. They have a great fear of being rejectedwhich makes it impossible for them to take action. You will rarely be an attractive person if you don't take rejections as something normal and take the matter down a notch. To be rejected you have to have tried.

3. They are shy

It is difficult for them to start a conversation because they are usually shy people and, as I said in the previous point, they are very embarrassed and afraid of rejection, they feel a great shame and fear of rejection. On the contrary, attractive people are usually open people with great communication skills.

4. They are impatient

When you come across someone who is anti-attractive, it is very likely that he/she is so focused on you that he/she does not remember himself/herself.. They are those people who are all day long, and may call you several times a day, which in the long run causes you to get fed up with them.

Attractive people, on the contrary, are so aware of their things that they end up creating certain expectations, and that makes you want to hear from him.

5. They think negatively

As people with low self-confidence and great shyness, they tend to think negatively.. Think of an optimistic person. Surely you would love to spend the whole day by their side, right? Because in addition to seeing problems as opportunities, they are there to cheer you up in bad times. Anti-attractive people do the opposite. They spread their bad vibes.

6. They don't have an active social life

Have you noticed that attractive people love contact with others? They are often considered popular people because they connect easily with other individuals. In addition to possessing great social skills, they often have interests and hobbies. hobbies that allow them to surround themselves with other people, so they tend to have an active social life. On the contrary, people who are not particularly attractive do not usually display this behavior and tend to be reserved individuals.

7. They are not funny or amusing

A sense of humor is often one of the most valued qualities in interpersonal relationships.Who doesn't want to have fun and laugh all day long with friends or a partner? Anti-attractive people do not usually have fun in company and rarely show their sense of humor, if at all.