Families in times of crisis

Key ideas for understanding family crises and how they can be overcome.

There are families that contain a great number of problems.

In them, the personality development of at least one member of the family is lacking, because when this element is absent, none of the other members of the family will have it unless they become aware of the lack of meaning in their lives and begin to work on it in order to break with a great dysfunctional pattern that exists in that family.

The maladaptive patterns are the cause of that tendency to be walking in a circle and going through the same point over and over again. and going through the same point over and over again. Before this, it is healthy to go to a therapist to analyze this pattern and to be able to break it.

The development of the personality in the family system

The personality that a person genuinely develops will help the whole family system to evolve; however, many times the family does not want to change and unconsciously and consciously puts to work those who will.However, many times the family does not want to change and unconsciously and consciously puts to work those who will bring about change.

The system is blocked because something at an unconscious level tells the family members that it is time to change and they in turn prevent the growth of that member of the family. prevent the growth of that member of the family, since they know that by changingThey know that by changing this one, all the others will be forced to change and get out of the comfort zone.

The family

The family is a first system in which behavioral patterns occur, which are practiced and then put into practice in other systems outside.

There are There are two ways of interacting with systems:

• 1- Behaviors from home are taken to another system outside.
• 2- The behaviors of an outside system are practiced at home.

Either way, there are patterns that hinder behaviors or patterns that help to give fluidity to the person's behavior and mind.

Interventions to break out of dysfunctional patterns.

Let's look at several forms of intervention to break with these dysfunctional dynamics..

One of them occurs when at least one part of the family system starts to do things differently; in such cases, the effects this has on the other people should be reviewed.

Secondly, it is key to create patterns imagining the future and doing psychogeography. In the same space where the person is, he/she visualizes his/her future and future events. Once this is done, the person starts to walk in that space (it can be the office or the house) and in this way is breaking patterns through behavior and visualization.

It is also useful to draw a labyrinth or a path in which the person first places the goal and visualizes it, consciously reviews how he/she feels and evaluates if what he/she feels is positive. If what he/she feels is negative, he/she should stop until he/she finds a goal that is positive, that generates pleasant emotions.If you feel negative, you should stop until you find a positive goal that generates pleasant emotions and transmits tranquility. The most important thing is to see, to imagine the process step by step without wanting everything without having lived the process, because if you do it at an accelerated pace, the person will be overturned on the road like a runner who runs so fast that he/she goes to the front and falls.

Overcoming the family crisis

There are types of families in which the genuine personality of each member is not distinguished, and there are families in which each member has developed his or her personality.

In order to help the personality of each one to flourish, it is important to create dynamics in which each member of the family should be able to freely choose what he or she wants.. Example: when they are young, children should be able to choose the clothes they will wear, as well as distinguish which foods they like and which they do not like (the tastes of the people should be respected as long as this does not harm any member of the family).

Families go into crisis because there are times to evolve and change, and when at least one person "gets stuck" (the parents) the whole system gets stuck.

In order to overcome the crises it is necessary to know that there are periods of change in familiesThey are cycles, and as the members of a family grow, so do the minds of the family members change or should change. If one mind (parent) stops growing, it will block its partner and therefore the whole family system.

At least one person (father or mother) must continue to grow and develop on a personal level so that the other members of the family unconsciously do the same.