How the excessive use of social networks affects the stability of a couple’s relationship

A review of the ways in which the constant use of social networks affects a relationship.

The degree to which a couple's relationship is strong and offers well-being to those who form it is an aspect of life that is influenced, even if only in part, by the context in which people live.

For better and for worse, the social environment and cultural dynamics to which we are exposed when entering into a courtship or marriage are elements that will condition the way in which we live and work together. elements that will condition the way in which that love relationship will develop.. However, the fact that as individuals we can hardly change this social context does not mean that the way we interact with it does not have an effect on the bond we establish with our partner.

It's the same with the development of new technologies; no matter what we do with our lives, new electronic devices and digital platforms are springing up all around us, but we always have leeway to decide how to relate to these elements and how to let them affect our courtship or marriage.

But unfortunately, many people hardly stop to think about the extent to which their constant use of social relationships damages their most important relationships to the point of contributing to destabilizing a dating relationship. That's why here we'll take a look at the ways in which a review of the ways in which social networking can lead a marriage or courtship into a crisis situation..

What do we mean by stable couple relationships?

First of all, let's look at the main keys to a stable relationship.

1. Respect

Respect is one of the fundamental characteristics in any satisfactory human relationship and especially in long-lasting relationships.

Respecting the other person at all times, as well as taking into account his or her ideas and preferences when making a decision, strengthens the foundations of the relationship.The relationship is a relationship that strengthens the foundations of the relationship and generates a state of well-being and a feeling of belonging to the relationship in both parties.

In the same way, feeling listened to and respected by the other person and perceiving that one's own opinions and ideas count, contributes to the increase of one's own self-esteem and, in short, to feeling loved and appreciated.

2. Common interests

With a few exceptions, when there are very divergent interests, ideas, preferences or ways of looking at life between the members of a couple, it is difficult for the couple to be long-lasting.

That is why it is so important to be able to to be able to engage in joint leisure activities that both partners can enjoy equally and at the same time spend time together. and at the same time spend time together.

These activities can be: going to the movies, practicing a sport that you both like, watching your favorite series, attending a concert or having common hobbies.

3. Future plans

Likewise, share plans for the future that are compatible with each other and have similar ideas about how it should be. have similar ideas about how the future of the couple should be is also an essential element to achieve a stable couple.

Again, it is evident that those couples whose plans for the future are similar will be more durable than those whose members have completely opposite ideas and aspirations for the future.

4. Reconciling schedules

Another of the fundamental requirements for a couple to achieve a certain stability over time is to be able to coordinate throughout the week and to reconcile each of their schedules in order to spend time together.

Sometimes this is difficult, since daily obligations and long working hours can make it very difficult to find time to spend together as a couple.

However, as long as there is a willingness on the part of both partners to spend time together, as long as there is a willingness on both sides, it is possible to find a few hours of the day to dedicate to life as a couple..

5. Division of tasks

As in any cohabitation, sharing household chores equally is crucial to a healthy and positive domestic climate..

A willingness to cooperate as much as possible in any aspect of household care denotes an interest in making the relationship work, as well as respect for the other party in the relationship.

6. Communication

Communication is essential for the proper functioning of any relationship and a lack of communication can jeopardize the future of the relationship.

Maintaining a good level of communication has to do with the ability to express one's feelings and ideas, but it is also about being receptive to what the other person wants to express and acting accordingly in case the other person wants to express. and acting accordingly in the event that one's own attitude needs to be changed.

Being aware of what the other person needs from us or identifying those patterns of behavior that may be harmful is also a sign that communication in the couple is optimal.

7. Trust

Trust in each other is one of the unmistakable signs of a stable relationship, and is one of the fundamental pillars for building a lasting bond.

It is sometimes difficult to gain, as it is built over the years and is demonstrated day after day in the course of the relationship. Likewise, Once trust is lost, it can be difficult for some people to trust their partner again, which is why it is such an important element of the relationship.That is why it is such an important element in any relationship.

How does dependence on social networks affect a couple's relationship?

Now that we have seen what the fundamental pillars of stable relationships are, let's look at how the excessive use of social networks can interrupt the course of that project of life together.

1. It diminishes the perception of respect for each other

Seeing how our partner seems to pay more attention to our cell phone than to us is an experience that is so upsetting for what it means at the time because of the implications of how little that person cares about us. This is especially painful if it happens during face-to-face conversations..

2. It makes it difficult to talk about common interests

Dependence on social networks makes face-to-face conversations short, fragmented and poor in content. This makes it very difficult to engage in mutually stimulating dialogues, and makes the communicative exchange frustrating..

3. It leads the person to focus only on the present.

The bombardment of stimuli that arrives through the social networks makes it easier for the person who is constantly connected to these digital platforms to be concerned only with the here and now, or with relatively ephemeral interests.or relatively ephemeral interests. This is an obstacle to set long-term goals and make plans for the future together that are truly satisfying.

4. It leads to disorganized schedules

Dependence on social networks means being very vulnerable to the constant distractions that come through notifications and notices of new content in the feed. In addition, these digital platforms are designed to make users lose track of time..

Therefore, the excessive use of these media makes the distribution of tasks and planning very complicated, leading to discussions and the accumulation of tasks.

5. Communication worsens significantly

As a result of the above, communication becomes very frustrating, the expectation is established that it is better not to talk if it is not totally "necessary" for easy short and medium term reasons. for short and medium-term reasons that are easy to determine.

6. Mistrust arises

A Because of this relative isolation between the two people, who already communicate much less, uncertainty arises and it is more difficult to trust the other person.uncertainty arises, and it is more difficult to trust each other and the future of the relationship.

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