How to regain control of your life, in 8 key points

People who emerge from hell and become happy again. How do they do it?

When you realize that the hell you are in (like the one I detailed in a previous article) is not what you want and you start to distance yourself and walk away, there are several things you could do to regain those resources and strengths we all have, there are several things you could do to regain those resources and strengths that we all haveThere are several things you could do to recover those resources and strengths that we all have; that which allows us to move forward and refloat from the well in which we are immersed, recovering with more strength and firmness all our potential, our inner power.

This will allow us, at last, to rise from the ashes and reinvent ourselves.

Taking back control of your life

Here are some of the elements that can help us gain greater autonomy:

1. Return to your origins.

You will notice how the people who love you and that at some point you had left behind, your parents, siblings, friends .... are waiting, waiting, eager to offer you a space, to help you and provide that support that allows you to walk forward. Do not be afraid to knock on their door, because they are waiting for you to take that step.

2. Take walks in the mountains or in the countryside.

Nature has a powerful stress-reducing effect, calms the nervous system, restores alertness... its contact has a powerful stress-reducing effect.... its contact has a moderating effect, it allows us to feel our inner self deeply and to enter into a state of peace that at this time is what you really need.

3. Tell someone important to you about your experiences.

Don't deny what you have experienced, don't minimize the damage you have suffered.. This will allow you to get rid of that burden and feel complicity with the other person. In addition, opening your Heart and sharing your experiences and the pain that some of them have generated will make it easier for you to look at yourself in a sweeter, subtler and kinder mirror, and put each scene back in its place, cleanse and heal memories and experiences.

4. Seek professional help

So that you can come to understand everything you have lived through, what is it that led you to that situation and what is it that you must do and know about yourself in order not to repeat it? In this way you will be able to restore yourself and release the accumulated suffering, the feeling of loss due to the broken illusions, the guilt, the anger, the frustration? It is also necessary that you take responsibility for your life and your decisions, by this I mean that you are the owner of yourself, of the paths you walk, of how you relate to the environment, how you react to the events that happen to you... 

Assume the consequences that derive from them, this will allow you to better manage your life and your experiences, it will give you power over yourself.It will give you power over yourself. And, if there is something in your way of acting that you don't like or that generates stress or confusion: work on it, learn new ways, modify it.

5. Learn to meditate

For example with Mindfulness, Focusing, Chi Kung (or any other meditation technique you feel comfortable with). It will help you keep intrusive and negative thoughts that arise uncontrollably at bay. Practicing mindfulness will make it easier for you to be in the here and now.It will help you not to project excessively into the future, nor to get stuck in the memories of the past. These tools favor states of serene calm and help you enjoy the present moment, allowing you to see each moment in all its splendor.

6. Seek out meaningful activities

Things that you enjoy doing and bring you great satisfaction.. Paint, dance, write, sing.... The arts have the honor and the particularity of allowing us to explore the emotional world and transform it almost without realizing it!

7. Give yourself a gift

Get a massage, go to a spa, buy yourself something you love..... How long has it been since you've spent a moment with yourself? How long has it been since you've taken care of yourself, pampered yourself? Take care of yourself!

8. Allow yourself a tribute

You have taken a very important step with powerful implications for you and your near future. You should allow yourself to celebrate it properly in order to turn the page completely.Rituals have the ability to convey the importance and transform acts, elevate them, give them connotations of reality and strength. Go out to dinner at a place you like, or plan a special trip, if possible with friends, so that you can once again feel the wonder of sharing life and experiences with others, so that you can close the circle, seal that stage and open another one with full honors!

Bibliographical references:

• Riveros, E. (2015). "Focusing from the heart and to the heart. A guide for personal transformation", ed. Desclée de Brouwer.
• Bucay, J.(2010). "El camino de la autodependencia", Grijalbo.