Loss of sexual desire

The person who suffers from it will hardly take the initiative of a sexual relationship and will maintain it in a forced way when his partner proposes it. All of this will make it easier for him to perceive this relationship as an unpleasant act or even as a punishment.

• It can be considered a disorder when the lack of desire is persistent, recurrent and has been going on for at least six months.
• In a complex field such as human sexuality, there is never a single cause, and there are various factors that can influence its loss.
• Problems with sexual desire often require specialized help. Many companies include a psychology service in their health insurance coverage.

This dysfunction may be occurring forever or from a certain vital moment. However, regardless of the moment of initiation, the lack of this desire can arise in a generalized way, that is, without sexual interest towards any person or circumstance, or situational, without attraction for the partner but towards other people or before the masturbation.

It is important to assess whether it is an absence of desire or a discrepancy in the level of sexual interest in contrast to the other member of the couple, as well as not to confuse it with a temporary absence of desire to maintain relationships. Once this context has been assessed, it can be considered a disorder when the lack of desire is persistent, recurrent and has occurred for at least 6 months.

This dysfunction is frequent to appear in an adult stage, after a period of normal sexual interest, and is usually related to some other type of psychological discomfort (stressful situations, duels, interpersonal problems, etc.), although there are also some cases in Those in which the lack of desire occurs continuously throughout the person's life.

The absence of desire affects the female population to a greater extent, being statistically the most frequent sexual problem among women.

Some common manifestations of a person with this problem are:

• Tending to make excuses to avoid sexual intercourse with your partner.
• Avoid coinciding with your partner at bedtime, alluding to pending tasks, interesting programs on television, etc.
• A problem such as lack of desire can be due to psychological causes of the person who suffers it or to problems within the relationship. However, in a complex field such as human sexuality there is never a single cause, and there are various factors that can influence its loss, such as the following:
  • biological, medical or secondary effects of any substance or medication.
  • The presence of other disorders, such as.
  • Aspects of the person's biography, such as having suffered traumatic experiences, sexual abuse or violence.
  • Having received an inappropriate sexual education or the transmission of certain family beliefs about sex.
  • The existence of other sexual problems such as la, vaginismus, la or la.
  • Stress in everyday life, lack of time, fatigue and certain worries.
  • The excess of programming and planning of the daily dynamics, as well as the habit of having sex only at a time that is considered appropriate.
  • Domestic obligations and inequality in the distribution of tasks between both members of the couple.
  • Other existing problems in the relationship, such as lack of communication, complicity or privacy between members, not feeling emotionally linked to each other or frequent discussions or power struggles.
  • An inappropriate choice of partner, without this awakening passion and attraction.
  • The routine or boredom in the relationship.
  • Low self-esteem, which can be accompanied by a feeling of not being attractive or desirable.

Problems with sexual desire often require specialized help from a professional. However, to face the specific stages of lack of desire, the following tips may be useful:

• Pamper yourself and take care of yourself. It is advisable to take care of your own body in order to improve your own mood and self-esteem, while facilitating the appearance of desire in the other. At the same time, it is important to make the other feel good in their own body, avoiding criticism or judgments about their shape and physical condition.
• Find moments of pleasant meeting in the couple, such as a walk, a dinner or sharing a pleasant activity.
• Approach the sexual encounter as a moment of mutual enjoyment and pleasure.

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