Marian Rojas-Estapé: "Understanding is relieving"

Marian Rojas-Estapé has managed to exceed 200 thousand copies sold with her book , an optimistic and relaxed vision with which he explains how to achieve happiness, how to manage stress or how to approach relationships with others.

The prestigious psychiatrist has long researched on human behavior to get to the bottom of our mind and understand our brain and its reactions to different situations, because

Of course, a success within everyone's reach if we take into account that it is for sale in more than 10 countries and has been translated into 6 languages.

Toxic people

How to detect toxic people?

We all have people who for some reason in life have made us suffer, they have hurt us, they have hurt us, they have behaved badly towards us, they have humiliated us ... or at least that is our perception of the matter.

The first thing to do when we have a toxic person is to identify it. Knowing that there are people who deeply alter us. There are times when you have to identify them in, because you go, for example, to a meal, a family event, a wedding or a job and, suddenly, you are very upset, and what is happening is that you have put yourself in "threat mode", Because there is someone there who alters your inner balance and you have to detect who that person is.

The second is be discreet With it, that is, do not tell your biggest secret to a person who can hurt you, who can make you suffer or who can, at any given moment, give you back that confidence in the form of an attack.

And then, try to understand why that person is toxic For you, to break down what is happening, that is, to see if it is a universal toxic, if for everyone it is a toxic person and it is difficult for everyone or it is especially difficult for you.

When the case is that it is especially difficult for you, you have to break down what happens, if it is because he once hurt me and I have not forgiven him, if it is because every time he comes, he attacks me, judges me, criticizes me or humiliates me ... because when you break down what is happening, and try to understand, in general, the toxicity level it's already starting to go down. When you don't understand what is happening, the only thing you know is that it upsets you, and you have to know why it upsets you, because you will know how to deal with it in a much easier way.

Why do toxic people act like this?

"To understand is to relieve." Understand what is happening in their life, why that person has these behaviors: perhaps it is that they feel insecure about you, they feel inferior or superior, or they think that you have more facilities or more opportunities than they or that you've had more luck and that life has treated her worse.

There are times when you have to walk away, especially when one is most vulnerable.

What to do in front of a toxic person?

If I am in a stage of my life in which I am in a depression, in a severe economic problem, or in which I have a problem with my husband ... and at the same time that toxic person is giving his opinion, that is going to affect me much more. get away from those toxic people. Sometimes, we create dependence on them, and it ends up damaging our health and mental stability.

To this, it helps a lot, sometimes you have to forgive themThey are people who have hurt you, who upset you a lot, but it is good to try to understand what has happened to them and enter that exciting field of forgiveness.

Vitamin people

Who are vitamin people?

Become person vitamin it means that I try to transmit passion to others. I believe that when you choose a vitamin person, when you are aware that you have real friends, the kind that come to you, the ones you don't choose because of their curriculum, or because of their studies, but you choose them because of what they generate when you are with them, in general that has to do with the passionWith that they awaken in you the desire to laugh, to enjoy, to share ... that is a vitamin person.

And what is putting passion?

Passion is put your heart into what you do. What do you notice when you are with that person who has his heart set before you so that you can share with your sadness and your joys, because at that moment, it is like the world stops and you can say that phrase that with that person you feel special and that you are an important person in his life at that time.