Meditation to regain the connection with yourself

A reflection on how useful it is to meditate to improve the relationship we have with the "I".

Meditation is a great ally that helps us to achieve a good relationship with our egoic part.

In this sense, the ego is a mental structure created basically to ensure our survival. It is a false personality that appears subtly and, in most situations, it is difficult to detect its appearance.

Meditation and relationship with our "I".

When we were little we learned that, in order to receive love, we had to be or act in a particular way. For example, we may have encountered situations where we were told; "if you don't finish everything on your plate, mommy won't love you". Words are powerful, and although our relatives may formulate these types of expressions to favor our growth, they can wreak havoc in our adult life.

In the previous example we can see how maternal love, which should be unconditional, is conditioned by a behavior that the infant must perform. It is likely that in adulthood we will show altered behaviors in relation to food and that we will repeat this pattern. For example, we can observe the consequences when the adult eats compulsively without leaving a single crumb on the plate in order to feel that he/she is worthy of love.

This situation is just one example of the consequences of believing that we are not worthy of love. the consequences of believing that we are not worthy of love for the mere fact of being. There are other cases in which the child learned that, in order to obtain his father's approval, he had to be an excellent student, and when he reaches adulthood he may remain conditioned, to a certain extent, by the learning he did.

These situations are a stress generator for the person and a breeding ground for the creation of frustrating situations for the individual, since he/she will surely perform certain actions that are conditioned by the fear of not receiving the love he/she believes he/she deserves..

Another situation that commonly occurs is that of forcing the infant to be affectionate. For example, let's suppose that a relative visits the infant's home and the mother says to the child: "Give your grandmother a kiss. Don't you love her?

Observing the message hidden in this phrase, which at first glance seems totally harmless, we will realize that the mother is conditioning the way in which the infant should show love.

Probably, when the child reaches adulthood, he or she will shower his or her partner with kisses to show affection even when he or she does not really feel like it.

There are no good or bad behaviors, only empowering or limiting ones

Suppose that any of these situations entail negative consequences for us; in that case, In that case, detecting what was the pattern we learned as children to receive love can be of great help to modify these limiting behaviors. to modify these limiting behaviors.

The authentic personality is camouflaged by this character we have created, which we obviously need in order to be able to live together in society. The key is to find the balance between the mask we use to relate socially and our true essence.

There are people who can get trapped in the strategies of the ego, causing great suffering in their lives. Sometimes we may find ourselves acting in an incoherent way and, then, an internal struggle appears between what we believe we are and what we believe we are. an internal struggle between what we believe we should be and what we really consider ourselves to be..

Evidently, we should not try to destroy the egoic figure, but to detect how it functions in order to prevent it from taking control of our lives, since the ego is not really negative, but appears to ensure our evolution.

The body retains the same intelligence as the mind, but we tend to identify ourselves more with the world of ideas; however, our beliefs do not define us and neither does the life experience we are going through at this moment.

By over-identifying ourselves with the environment or with the thoughts we have, we will be reducing the meaning of our existence, we will be reducing the meaning of our existence. We anticipate what may happen in the future to try to prevent any threatening situation and that can generate discomfort associated with disconnection with our present.

The key is to realize when these thoughts have a negative impact on us, and to increase our level of awareness so that we can return to the present moment whenever we wish.

Becoming aware of our whole being involves taking into account the three basic pillars that make it up: the mind, emotions and bodily sensations. Although the mind is important, our ideas are not more relevant than the sensory world.

The role of meditation

To live fully and connected to the present, we must begin to listen to ourselves on a bodily level. At the beginning it is normal that thoughts divert our attention preventing us from a deeper connection with our being. I propose that you perform this practice that I am going to expose below so you can check in an experiential way what I am explaining.

Find a place where you can settle down to begin the following meditation. Take a couple of deep breaths from your stomach and, when you feel ready, begin to notice the position of your body. You do not need to change its state, simply pay attention to the sensations that appear in your body. pay attention to the sensations that appear.

Notice if there is tension in any part of your body and also feel the temperature of your body. Now the thoughts are becoming clouds that pass in front of you, and you will observe them without giving them importance. Every time a thought appears that takes you away from your focus, bring your attention back to some part of your body.

You can help yourself by moving a limb or sliding a hand across your face, thus distracting your mind and bringing the focus back to your body.

Take a few minutes to scan from your feet to your head and close your eyes to help you connect with your body.

What sensations have you experienced?

This meditation can help you find the balance between the three parts of your being; emotional, sensory and mental.