Mother-child bond

| The mother-child bond is the intense emotional bond that develops between parents and their baby. It makes it possible for parents to want to shower their baby with love and affection, protect and stimulate him.

The affective bond teaches the baby the first role model to establish interpersonal relationships, fosters a sense of security and self-esteem. Generate a good bond mother son with the baby is important for future social relationships.

The first contact with the newborn triggers affection and desire for protection in the mother: it is the first step to generate the bond mother son with the baby. While it is true that during this time the mother-child bond has already begun, it will not fully develop until after birth. When the baby is born you already know your motherYou have heard her speak throughout your pregnancy and her scent is very familiar to you. That is why the baby will calm down very quickly, when after the first assistance in the delivery room, we put him in the arms of his mother.

On many occasions, after it, many parents may think that they do not feel that maternal or paternal instinct or bond. This is the result of the disoriented state and fatigue after childbirth. It should not be a cause for concern as this will change when they are a little more relaxed and have continuous contact with the baby. Everything takes time and they have their whole lives ahead of them.

If the mother to the baby, the mother-child bond is generated more quickly since mother and child maintain a very special relationship of food and affection. The newborn's first interest is his mother; mother and child are instinctively ready to establish an intense relationship. The baby gives off tenderness and overflows fragility, this has served, evolutionarily for many thousands of years, to survive.

In cases where the newborn has a problem: prematurity, illness, disability. take longer to consolidate the link maternal-filial. Probably the baby and the mother have not spent enough time together (admission of the newborn to the intensive care unit, medical tests) or else the baby has demands that were not expected by the parents: irritability, difficult feeding, special care Everything This can make it difficult for you to understand each other.

If this happens, you have to "give yourself time", taking care of the baby naturally and lovingly will help both of you get to know each other little by little and make your daily interaction a very special relationship.

How the emotional ties of the mother-child bond are generated

Most newborns are biologically prepared to bond with their mother. The key is the interaction with the baby:

• "Skin-to-skin" physical contact that is relaxing for the baby and parents.
• Eye contact
• Talk to the newborn
• Caress and cuddle him
• When breastfeeding the baby

Pediatric Specialist