The 5 personality traits and their relationship with your love life.
Tell me how you are and I will tell you how you love.
Love as a couple, that space in our lives that we decide to share with another person creating affective bonds, is something that can take many forms and varies greatly depending on the time and place.
However, in our love life there is something that is constant and is always there, affecting the way we perceive our relationship with the other person and the way we interact with them**. It is our personality or, more specifically, those personality traits that define us**.
Our personality applied to love
If it is true that our personality affects us in all areas of our lives, it is no less true that our love relationships are one of the most important aspects of our existence. Therefore, everything we know about personality traits, brought to light from decades of scientific research, can be used to know, in an approximate way, the characteristics of the way we tend to experience love.
That is why, if we are interested in trying to establish approximate predictions about how our love life will be, it is much more advisable to rely on what is known about personality traits than to do so based on pseudosciences such as astrology.
Personality traits and love relationships
Below you can read what are those aspects of personality traits aspects of personality traits that help us to understand how we experience love relationships.
For this purpose, we will take as a reference the Big Five personality traits model, also known as the Big Five, which establishes these personality dimensions: extraversion, neuroticism, openness to experience, responsibility and agreeableness.
1. Extraversion
This personality dimension serves to establish the extent to which we tend to be assertive people who seek social interaction in the present. Therefore, it serves to measure whether we are more or less assertive, It is used to measure whether we are more or less socially active or, on the contrary, introverted and difficult to access..
Extroverted people are more exposed to interaction and dialogue with other people, as they go to meet this type of situations. That is why they they can more easily polish their social skills and become charismatic people.The personality trait of the romantic type, with a relative ease in finding a partner and managing the relationship with the person in whom one has a romantic interest, is also related to this personality trait.
However, this personality trait is also related to the tendency to seek short-term relationships and to seek novelty in love life, looking for new partners and not valuing as much as others the monogamous life (something reminiscent of the Coolidge effect).
Thus, introverted people may have more difficulties in finding a partner.However, if they learn to communicate well with their partner, they are more likely to devote more effort to making the relationship stable and lasting.
Neuroticism
Neuroticism is the dimension that measures the degree to which we are emotionally stable or, on the contrary, very sensitive to mood swings and anxiety levels. Thus, people with a high level of neuroticism are volatile and have more difficulty in self-controlling their emotional states.
With regard to love life, a high score on the trait of neuroticism means a higher probability of developing dissatisfaction in the relationship or marriage, and of getting divorced.
This may be because people with a higher degree of neuroticism are particularly sensitive to stress and also find it difficult to and, moreover, find it difficult to manage their actions so that this is not a problem in their relationships with others. Therefore, they will be more likely to generate conflicts with some frequency and will find it difficult to solve them by establishing effective communication channels with their partner, since for this they should adopt a calm attitude and see the problem with a cooler perspective.
People who, on the contrary, are characterized by their emotional stability, will find it easier to make these problems appear and reproduce themselves over time.
3. Openness to experience
This personality trait indicates our propensity for curiosity and the way in which we value living novel experiences or, conversely, the degree to which we like to base our lives on rigid and stable rules. Moreover, it is the trait of the Big Five model that has the least impact on our love life, as opposed to neuroticism, which is the best predictor of how our relationships will turn out.
If there is one fact to point out where openness to experience is significant in our romantic bonds, it is in our intimate relationships. One study points out that women with higher scores on this trait have relationships of this type more frequently, while this effect was not present in men.while this effect was not present in men. This may mean that, in marriages, it is women who decide what happens in their bedroom and with what kind of periodicity, since men are willing to be intimate more assiduously.
4. Responsibility
Responsibility is the trait that our tendency to take the necessary steps to achieve medium- and long-term goals and to be disciplined. and to be disciplined. In romantic relationships, a high score on this trait indicates a greater likelihood of avoiding infidelity and generating well-being in life as a couple. Similarly, people who have this personality trait more markedly show a propensity to avoid the risks of pregnancy and the transmission of venereal diseases.
5. Kindness
Friendliness indicates the degree to which we are either receptive to friendly treatment or tend toward hostility.. As with the trait responsibility, it correlates positively with satisfaction in marriage, possibly because it facilitates communication and makes it more difficult for direct confrontations to occur.
(Updated at Apr 13 / 2024)