The 6 Most Difficult Personality Profiles and How to Deal with Them

It is not impossible to understand a friend or family member with a complicated personality.

We all have a family member or acquaintance that we try to avoid, that no one wants to invite to birthdays or that we tend not to answer their calls.

In this article we propose to classify the psychological profiles of people who drive us crazy and offer some recommendations for dealing with them and offer some recommendations for dealing with them.

Difficult personalities

People who have a rough personality in some sense are often unaware of how annoying they are to others, and tend to blame other people for not knowing how to deal with them. Some of them resemble the classic "toxic friend". They are a series of well-profiled prototypes of personalities.

1. The hostile friend

It is a surly person, and tends to react badly to criticism and offenses.They are highly susceptible. It is necessary to try to communicate with prudence with this profile of people. They tend to react disproportionately if they feel unfairly treated. If you want to keep the beast calm, you should be careful with the words and topics you choose to communicate with this person. It is also advisable to try not to show weakness when you are in the presence of this type of friend, since this attitude can incite them to maintain attitudes of superiority.

The wisest thing to do is to move in a middle ground when you are in their company, since an extreme attitude can activate their hostility.

What to do if you have such a friend?

It is useful to try to divert the person's focus to a specific activity or topic of conversation that is not a source of hostility. You can bring up certain topics or common interests, thus distracting their attention from the issues that generate their anger. Being aggressive or trying to correct them is not helpful, as they react even more aggressively.

If your tone of voice and gestures are calm, so much the better. If the person is eager to tell you their stories related to their feelings of anger, let them explain and pay attention without antagonizing them, and then share your thoughts without blaming them. It is important for him to see that you care about the issue, but it is key not to feed his anger. it is key not to feed his anger or give rise to aggressive behavior..

In case the conversation gets out of our control and the person behaves aggressively, a good advice is to tell him/her that we will resume the conversation at another time, when we can keep calm.

2. The one who complains about everything

This profile corresponds to the person who always finds the negative side of things, who always blames other people for everything that happens to them.who always blames other people for everything that happens to them, who always thinks they are right about everything that has to be done or not done (although they never lead by example). Sometimes they are sharp people who may be right about many things, but the strategy of complaining about everything does not bring them any benefit or solve any problem.

How do we interact with these people?

First we must listen to them and try to make them argue their positions well, even if they try to make you feel guilty about something. It is not recommended that you apologize or agree with everything they say, or assume responsibilities that do not correspond to you. Don't get defensive or try to counterattack.. If you want to solve the problem without getting hurt, the best thing to do is to be very willing to mediate and solve the issue.

Recognize when he is right and try to help him unravel the doubts about the issue in order to get closure and move on.

Be patient with him and be open to reasoning about the issue that is irritating him, encourage him to talk to the people he has a problem with and help him get things back to normal. If you can get more people to cooperate with you in trying to get the situation resolved, all the better.

• Learn more about this profile: "Chronic victimhood: people who complain out of habit".

3. The one who always agrees with you

Always nods and agrees with you about your opinions.. However, when this communion of ideas implies carrying out actions, don't count on him/her. They are the kind of people who always seem to be in a good mood, who are very sociable, who seem to be unconditional friends, but when you need them, they disappear without a trace. They are subjects who seek external approval, they promise much more than they are able to deliver, but it is their way to achieve friendship and acceptance from others. These behaviors are usually acquired during childhood.

What to do in these cases?

It is very important to let these people know that we will remain friends with them if they are honest with us. It is necessary to delve into one's own ideas and ask them how much they agree with them, or how they could improve. In this way we help them to express themselves about what they don't like but don't dare to say. Also try to discourage them from making promises they cannot keep by making them think, without accusing them of anything, about whether they are sure they will be able to keep them.

Let them know that you value their friendship, and that they can see that you are flexible and fair with them as much as they are with you. Be patient with them and argue that you need to know their opinion and that they can help you much more if they are completely honest.

4. The know-it-all

In this profile we can find two different categories: the one who really knows everything, and the one who does not have much idea about anything but pretends to be very smart. In the second case, the strategy to follow is simply to argue and make them see their mistakes. These people are often unaware of their ignorance. In any case, it is advisable not to embarrass them in public, and to offer them a way out so that they can preserve their self-image. Normally, they are only looking for external approval.

In the other case, the person who really has extraordinary knowledge may tend to act with a certain air of superiority, believing himself superior to others and making them feel idiots. They are very independent and reject outside help. They are also stubborn and often intolerant of others' opinions. They are very secure in their personality, they do not want to change.

How to stop the know-it-all?

To face conversations with this know-it-all profile, you must be aware that they are better informed and your knowledge gaps may become evident. It is necessary to pay attention to them when they talk, because the truth is that you can learn a lot. The important thing is not to fall into discussions or arguments that are based on wanting to attack their ego or defend yours.

Forget about ego, especially with these people. If you are not very sure, it may be preferable not to attack their ideas head-on but to lead them down alternative paths. You should be respectful of their position but not undermine your own.

5. The pessimist

They only notice the obstacles, complications and negative effects of things.. They are people who seem to be constantly angry with the world. They can become contagious to others since they take care of elevating to a matter of state the small doubts that you may harbor, dragging you towards inaction.

What to do?

It is useless to argue with them, nor is it useful to show them the solutions to the obstacles they express. Instead, you should use hopeful phrases that can gradually modulate their vision.show them with words and deeds that there are positive points that invite hope and sow useful thoughts towards the search for solutions. Rationalize their thoughts by asking them about the options you are considering, and what would be the worst possible scenario depending on the decision.

In this way, he builds tools to compensate for his pessimism, and it is possible that with time he will take a different attitude. If you are determined to carry out an idea, they may not offer you their help.

6. The soft and indecisive

They differ from the one who always agrees with you in that they genuinely want to help you. They tend to be very reflective and find it difficult to make decisions out of sheer fear.. It is important to facilitate communication so that they can express their doubts. Help them to scrutinize the issue so they can look for other paths or make commitments to projects. When they do make a decision, respond to them and appreciate their determination.

How do you deal with such a person?

Ask them how they feel and take a genuine interest in them. These are people who often do not speak up for fear of offending or upsetting others. Although they may be a very nice friend at first, as the friendship progresses you may realize that the problem with having a friend with this profile is that they may not be able to be a good friend. rarely expresses his opinion or takes sides on anything, and ends up making no decisions at all.and ends up making no decisions at all.