The disappointment

The disappointment is a emotion painful that is awakened in a person when a constructed expectation is not fulfilled, generally around the behavior of another person or in relation to some event. In this way, a disappointment always occurs after waiting for something specific and placing illusion on it and when that expectation does not happen or it does happen, but in a different way.

• Disappointment is an internal process and it happens when you do not relate to people as they are, but rather as you think they are or as you want them to be.
• Learning to handle it involves accepting that others are not or behave like oneself, but according to their own world of values, beliefs, principles and experiences.
• In some cases, it may be useful to talk about these feelings with someone you trust to help contrast and relativize the situation.

Roughly

The greater the link and the trust with the other person and the more concrete and defined the expectation, the greater will be the disappointment if the latter is not fulfilled. Disappointment is generally accompanied by other emotions such as frustration, sadness, anger, rage, or feeling cheated and disappointed.

It is important to be aware that what really disappoints is not the other person or the event itself, but the previous expectation that one had in relation to it. Therefore, disappointment is an internal process and happens when you do not relate to people as they are, but as you think they are or as you want them to be.

Many of these expectations are also based on one's own world of personal values ​​and beliefs or are constructed in accordance with one's own experiences. For this reason, factors such as idealization, fantasy, projection, desire or need come into play in this process.

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How to handle it

Some keys to keep in mind to handle these states of disappointment are:

• Do not generate too many expectations regarding others. It is important to try to see and accept other people as they are and not as you want them to be, that is, to accept their individuality and personal freedom.
• Understand that others are not and should not be as one wishes, nor is it the mission of others to meet the expectations that one has built.
• Accept that others are not and do not necessarily behave like oneself, but rather based on their own world of values, beliefs, principles and experiences.
• When building expectations and anticipating events, it is necessary to be able to differentiate the aspects that depend on oneself and those that do not, and focus and work on the former. In addition, in relation to the latter, it is important to accept that they may or may not happen.
• Identify and channel the emotions that arise as a result of the disappointments or disappointments experienced. It is normal and legitimate to feel sadness, anger and frustration, but each one must learn to channel these emotions.
• In some cases, it may be useful to talk about these feelings with someone you trust to help contrast and relativize the situation. And, if it is possible, and one believes that it can be beneficial, it is also advisable to share these reasoning about the created situation and the feelings created with the person who has caused the disappointment.
• Learn to forgive and let go of negative emotions so as not to fall into resentment and resentment, which generally leave the person stagnant.
• Trust again and get closer to others, although sometimes a previous time away is needed to manage what happened and to be able to face future relationships and social situations with renewed spirit.