The origin and solution for anxiety (the 4 essential factors)

Key ideas to understand the origin and the way to solve anxiety problems.

Anxiety is one of the psychological and emotional problems that most affect, condition and limit us in our daily life. in our day to day life.

In our modern era we live a real pandemic of anxiety. If just a few decades ago it was a problem that affected only a small percentage of the population, today it is frequently present in our lives.

Why do we feel more and more anxiety? What is it that makes it last so long? Can we solve it without resorting to constant medication?

The extent of anxiety problems

Before 2020, my work as a psychologist and coach consisted in accompanying people in their personal change processes, to achieve specific changes in relation to their well-being, emotional management, couple relationships, professional approach, or also to overcome specific difficulties related to a breakup or unexpected conflicts. Anxiety was present in one third of the people I accompanied.

Anxiety is a very common problem, but the solution cannot be limited to mass medication of the population. the population. Medication addresses the symptom, but not the cause of the anxiety. This is why so many people carry anxiety with them over the years. Anxiolytics relax our muscles and diaphragm and prevent us from reaching an anxious state, but they have a temporary effect and the side effects also affect us and damage our health.

For these reasons I have prepared this article, in which I include a video entitled "Anxiety: the most necessary change". I am Rubén Camacho, psychologist and coach of empoderamientohumano.com, and first of all I send you lots of encouragement so that today is a before and after in your relationship with this unpleasant feeling and difficulty.

The generalization of discomfort

People who have lived through their processes of change and have overcome anxiety (which they began to experience for various reasons, such as a breakup, a break in the couple, situations of uncertainty, fears, insecurity) every so often ask me: "Ruben, today I felt that anxiety has returned for a moment".

The main problem that we have with anxiety is that it is such an unpleasant experience that it makes us feel fear, and that increases anxiety.. Feeling anxiety at certain times in our lives is normal (before an intense experience, a move, a first day at work, when waiting for the results of medical tests, or even if you see a horror movie).

The problem with anxiety is not feeling it, but generalizing it.. When we get used to living with anxiety we are in a state of alert, anxiety exhausts us, we feel it in the pit of our stomach and it can affect your digestion, your rest, lack of sleep, intrusive thoughts, and it produces so much exhaustion that it also leads to discouragement as a defense mechanism.

What is anxiety and how does it originate?

Anxiety is actually a state of fear that has become generalized.. We have become accustomed to living in fear, not necessarily because of a specific event, but because we have not known how to understand and manage these emotions in time.

In turn, we live in a social, living and working system that is increasingly chaotic, stressful, materialistic and loaded with information overload (which induces anxiety).

Imagine an animal that is in the forest and is surrounded by a perimeter of predatorsIt feels that at any moment it is going to be eaten. For this reason it begins to breathe in a hurried way, towards the chest, with the purpose of being ready to escape at any moment. It is a breathing of fear where the diaphragm expels the air quickly and presses on the pit of the stomach?

Yes, that's the reason why you feel anxiety in the pit of your stomach (and it's also the explanation for the famous "butterflies" in your stomach when we are teenagers and fall in love). Anxiety is always a result of your Respiratory mechanics.. It is the way you breathe that induces anxiety.

When we get used to living in a state of alertness (due to frequent fears that we have not been able to manage, a very negative environment, stressful routines, not knowing how to set limits for people, overloading ourselves with responsibilities that we cannot assume, etc.) anxiety becomes generalized and conditions our life. It is such an exhausting state that it leads to discouragement and makes it difficult to sleep and rest (by breathing so shallowly, it is totally incompatible with rest, which requires full breathing).

This is also the reason why any solution against anxiety will be totally useless if you do not focus first on the way you breathe. Neither drugs nor a merely verbal therapy can solve a problem that does not occur only temporarily, but every day.. Let's go then with the 4 keys to solve anxiety and prevent it in the future.

The 4 keys to solve and prevent anxiety for good.

Living stressful or traumatic experiences in our lives is inevitable. Breathe according to a state of alert and feel some anxiety is also. But to live in an anxious state is neither useful nor necessary..

First key: full breathing

If the main reason is the way you breathe (which motivates everything else, since your breathing induces certain emotions to be more intense, such as fear and insecurity, as well as the intensity and frequency of intrusive thoughts), the solution must always have breathing as a pillar.

Any process or solution that neglects your breathing will be like wanting to improve your fitness with only healthy food and no exercise.

In order to solve anxiety and prevent it, it is first necessary to reduce its intensity.. This affects not only the unpleasant sensation in the pit of the stomach or chest but also the rest of the symptoms (such as intrusive thoughts or ruminations).

Working with your breathing implies that you make it complete, that is, you breathe in such a way that the air reaches your navel. This is the natural breathing of human beings when they are in peace or deep sleep.

By working with your complete breathing you can gradually normalize this way of breathing.. You will need to be patient, as breathing is a 24-hour habit, anxiety is sticky and we need time.

Second key: learn to understand and manage your emotions.

The origin of anxiety is your breathing mechanics, but first of all, the problem stems from the way you breathe. the problem stems from the way you understand and manage your emotions..

Feeling fear, insecurity, guilt, anger, even discouragement, is functional and practical at certain times in our lives.

However, if we do not learn to understand and manage what we feel, these emotions can become too intense, too frequent and too long-lasting. This is the reason why anxiety appears: fear becomes too intense and generalized.

The way to manage your emotions is not with activities or readings, but with your actions.. It is what you do that leads you to manage your emotion in one way or another. For this reason, what works for you will always be something particular, unique, that we discover in a process of deep, practical, totally personal and private change.

Third key: patience and constancy.

Anxiety is sticky. Sometimes, it stays for years. It is therefore necessary to have patience, as the process may take some time..

However, it does not need to be too many months or years. If the process is practical and we work every day, the intensity of the anxiety can go down in a few weeks and we learn to manage it in a stable way.

Fourth key: companionship

We are social beings, who learn, change and transform ourselves through relationships.. The company is essential in this process, but not a company that guides or advises you, but one that helps you to see yourself as a clean mirror to understand what is happening to you with perspective and thus find solutions.

I am going to make you now a special proposal. In empoderamientohumano.com and in my profile of Psicología y Mente you can find the option to schedule an exploratory session with me, which we can have via Whatsapp. In that session, totally confidential and private, we get to know each other, we go deeper into your problems, we find a solution and we see how I can accompany you so that you can overcome your anxiety 100%.

Overcoming anxiety is possible if the change is in you. I know how difficult it is, so I send you lots of encouragement, enthusiasm, commitment and above all a lot of confidence.