True love should meet these 40 requirements

What characteristics can you discover in that special person?

Love is one of the great things in life, something worth living for.

And although psychologists, sociologists and doctors have all tried to understand human behavior with respect to this phenomenon, we all know how good it feels and how true love is, we all know how good it feels and how true love is able to change our lives completely.. No one will hesitate to say that it is one of the most extraordinary sensations we can enjoy.

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What does science say about love?

And of course, since love is capable of making us cross the ocean in search of the person we love, researchers have tried to provide scientific knowledge about it, aware of the great interest that this topic arouses.

You are probably wondering, what have they concluded in their studies? In a nutshell, science has found such curious results as these:

• Love is like a drug
• The Christmas season produces many divorces
• Small details are the most important
• Love movies are a good therapeutic strategy
• Social networks are the most common cause of divorce
• Distance is not an obstacle in love
• Couple's arguments are fattening

• You can learn more about these studies in our article: "Love and infatuation: 7 surprising researches".

Difference between love and infatuation

Despite the fact that infatuation and love seem synonymous, the reality is that they are different things.. Love, in this case romantic love, is something more lasting than infatuation, which is usually the beginning of romantic love. Infatuation is a series of chemical reactions that occur in the brain, it's what makes you feel on a high and makes you feel like a monkey for someone when you're not with that person.

The crush usually lasts about two years, which is when the brain returns to normal. Infatuation is usually irrational and can give way to mature love.

• Want to know more about falling in love? In our article "The chemistry of love: a very potent drug" you can find very interesting information.

Mature love: rational love

In order for relationships to last, the intense feeling of love is not enough.. There must be a series of characteristics that allow the relationship to continue. Respect, communication and even learning from the past will make or break a relationship. Therefore, for love to succeed, one must also learn how to make the relationship work. This is what is known as mature love.

• You can delve deeper into the subject of mature love in the following post, "Mature love: why is second love better than first love?"

Characteristics of true love

But what are the characteristics of true love? What are the requirements for lasting love? Below you can find a list with 40 singularities of genuine love:

• It is mutual because it requires that both partners feel the same.
• It is generous. The person cares about giving and gives his or her whole heart.
• It is healthy, that is, it is not an asymmetrical or dependent love. Each person has his or her own autonomy.
• It does not make you suffer, that is, it is not a toxic love and it does not hurt. You feel lucky.
• It lasts forever. It can go through bad times, but because of its intensity it lasts forever.
• It is respectful and the two people who love each other treat each other in a tolerant and attentive way.
• It provokes a deep emotional connection that is what keeps the relationship alive despite the bad times that may arise.
• It is courageous and doubts are overcome with courage. The other person comes first.
• It is intense. The feeling is not only deep, but its intensity provokes emotions of great magnitude.
• It builds over time. True love gains ground over the years.
• It is nourished by compassion and is therefore tender and altruistic.
• It encourages negotiation and dialogue, because each partner does his or her part to understand the other person's needs.
• We are ourselves and that is one of the keys. When you love yourself, then you can love others.
• That person makes you laugh and makes you feel good.
• It is free and unbound. No one imposes.
• It allows communication and both people do their part to understand each other.
• It knows how to listen to what the other needs and what both need.
• The two people complement and support each other.
• It is non-judgmental and realistic.
• Is romantic and keeps the flame alive over time. He does his part to make it happen.
• Is detail-oriented and makes the partners show their love.
• It is passionate and keeps the contact intimate.
• It is not finding oneself in the other person nor is it dependent.
• One must first love oneself to be able to love others.
• It is natural and things happen without forcing them.
• In order to give it, one must receive it. It is a love that gives.
• It is a friendship with erotic moments. The two members are great friends and share great moments.
• It is commitment, sincerity and honesty.
• It has no limits, because true love can do anything.
• Distance does not matter. People who want to meet.
• It has shared goals and both members are on the same path.
• It overcomes any ups and downs that may arise and there are no conditions.
• There are no victims, because the members have enough trust and respect.
• You have to live it and not let time pass.
• It keeps you awake at night when you are not with the person you love.
• He loves you as you are and not as he would like you to be.
• Forgive quickly no matter how big the mistake was.
• He is your best support and is the person who is by your side in good times and bad.
• You have to work at it. It doesn't happen overnight.