What are the people who attract and captivate us like?

Charismatic, smiling, empathetic? what qualities do highly attractive people have?

When you meet one of these highly attractive people, the energy they give off simply makes you want to spend more and more time with them. The attraction triggers desire, intrigue and facilitates emotional connection.. But attractiveness is more than just physical attractiveness, it's something deeper, it has to do with charisma, with attitude, with the way you do things.

But can anyone be attractive? That's a complicated answer, but what is possible is to maximize your attractiveness and increase your chances of making a magical connection. When you choose to be the most attractive version of yourself, you actually choose to be the person you want to be, without fear. In other words, you choose to maximize your personal development and others notice.

What importance does the physique have when it comes to flirting

A very common question is if the physique matters or not at the time of flirting.. The truth is that ugliness and handsomeness are very subjective concepts. To what extent is a movie-like physique so important? If we go out on the street and look around us, we will realize that often the physique is not the most important thing, because we can see that many beautiful women are with guys who are not.

So, what is it that hooks them? Well, it depends a lot on the needs of the person, of course. Now, it is possible that what hooks them the most is a special personality. There are people who are a real earthquake that sweeps everything, and also have a great self-confidence..

• If you think this is an interesting topic, you can read more in our article: "Does physique matter when it comes to flirting? 3 reflections on beauty".

Self-confidence, the key to being attractive.

Possibly the most important law of attraction is self-confidence.. Obviously that does not mean that you will be successful with everyone, but self-confidence is perceived by others in a positive way, and it is one of the most attractive traits.

The person with high confidence appears radiant in front of others and their verbal language and non-verbal communication will always be better than the person who is not confident. The tone of voice, a great smile and a relaxed attitude will play in your favor, and are possible if you trust yourself.

Do opposites really attract?

The classic question is whether or not opposites attract. But do they really? According to several studies carried out, this hypothesis is not confirmed.. One such study was conducted by Tognetti, Berticat, Raymond and Faurie in 2014. The results of their study confirmed that the inhabitants of a rural region of Senegal, which had been the subjects of their study, married people who were as cooperative and friendly with others as themselves. So similarities do not seem to be the key to these people getting married.

• You can learn more about this study in our article, "Do polar opposites really attract?"

Another research that addressed this issue, and in which 174 couples participated, was conducted University of Kent and was led by Nathan Hudson. The most significant findings were that couples who reported more similarity to each other on the traits of kindness and emotional stability were more satisfied with their relationship.

Bad boys attract

So what does science have to say about the assumption that bad boys are more attractive? Well, it seems that there is something about bad boys that is really tempting to women.. So says research conducted by G. Carter, A. Campbell and S. Muncer (2013).

For this study they had a group of 128 women between the ages of 18 and 36, who were presented with a series of men, some with narcissistic, Machiavellian and psychopathic personality traits and some not. They were then asked which they found most attractive. For them, men with Machiavellian and psychopathic traits were considered more attractive.

Attractiveness is expressed from the inside out

If you're not a bad boy yourself, you'll be glad to know that attractiveness goes from the inside out.Because physical attractiveness is really about how you feel about yourself.

People who spend less time trying to show a fictitious appearance of themselves in order to be liked by others, lose valuable time in finding and developing themselves in different areas of their lives. When you connect with yourself, it is also easier for you to connect with others..

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Attractive people have an active social life

Attractive people tend to be popular people, who tend to surround themselves with others.. They are people who connect easily with other individuals and not only in terms of love, but they go down well with both sexes.

Attractive individuals tend to have interests and hobbies that allow them to surround themselves with other people so they tend to have an active social life. In addition, they are usually good interlocutors, so they captivate others easily.