What youre missing out on by staying in your comfort zone
We explain the many benefits of abandoning our comfortable routine.
Although its name may not be the most ideal representation, the comfort zone is one of the greatest dangers when it comes to progressing as an individual and developing a life plan.
What is the comfort zone?
The comfort zone is a behavioral state in which the individual remains in a situation of neutral anxiety, to simply follow a series of behaviors.It means that the individual will simply follow a set of behaviors in order to have the minimum level of performance with no sense of risk.
This means that the individual will avoid any type of effort or situation that makes him feel uncomfortable or with which he is not familiar; thus avoiding the possible and diverse rewards that he can get in his daily life either in a work or personal environment.
Why is it so important to get out of the comfort zone?
Because outside of it you will have the best experiences of your life and you will contribute a lot to your personal growth..
Maybe you've always wanted to go around the world, learn to play an instrument, try to get a better job than the one you have, or study something you love. Why haven't you done it yet?
Well, it's possible that your comfort zone is playing a trick on you, pulling you into it and not letting you out. The thing is, anything our brain doesn't know, it's going to be afraid of. Our instincts want to keep us safe and when faced with an unusual situation (such as living abroad or making a radical change in our life) it will sound the alarm for us to return to our comfort zone.
But you should know that the most wonderful things in life happen precisely outside of it..
Personal growth; our companion outside the comfort zone.
Having a source of motivation, learning to be tolerant with ourselves and with others, understanding the needs that others have, understanding what they feel, accepting our failures and learning from them, always finding new solutions to our daily problems, living new experiences and above all, never stop learning, regardless of the activity in which the learning is taking place; these are the direct consequences of an optimal personal growth..
Personal growth is given as a life project; it is a plan that although it may not be fast and instantaneous, in the long term it may be the best way to progress as an individual and understand how to live life to the fullest, turning weaknesses into strengths, achieving a harmonization between our thoughts and actions.
Increasing our knowledge and understanding of our surroundings can allow us to take the first steps on the road to personal growth.
For example: learning a new language allows us to open doors to enter different parts of the world, if we travel we will become more tolerant, learn about different cultures, become much more sociable and learn to communicate with the world in a much more efficient way.
Promoting activities in our lives that are synonymous with progress is the main object of our development.The promotion of activities in our lives that are synonymous with progress is the main object of developing ourselves as individuals of integrity who are always in constant personal growth. In short, if there is something you have always wanted to do, now is the time. You never know what might unfold next.
How coaching helps us get out of our comfort zone
Coaching is defined as a method that consists of teaching, instructing, training and accompanying a person or a group of people with the objective of or a group of people with the objective of achieving their goals or developing specific skills for the activity in which progress is sought.
The coaching process (phases to achieve the objectives)
Coaching is developed in 5 simple steps, a good method of instruction is based on the following:
- Observation of different points of viewThis is fundamental since the person receiving the coaching will find solutions and will allow the individual to choose between the different options he/she has to reach the proposed goals.
- Awareness in the given situation.The coach will show the individual the different choices he/she makes and the consequences of these choices, giving him/her specific tools to choose consciously and in an optimal way.
- It is extremely important to set the objectives. Without clearly defined objectives, the goal to be achieved will not be clear to the individual or the coach.
- Performing the necessary actions to achieve the goalIt is not enough to simply define the objectives; they have to be carried out following a time to do them, establishing a good schedule for their development.
- See that the plan is on the right track and that results are obtained.If this is not the case, you must check what is wrong and correct it.
If you are lost and do not know where to start to change your life, you have two options: the first one is to hire a good coach, but maybe it is not a profitable option for you because you simply cannot afford it. However, there is a second option, to become your own personal coach by reading self-help books on personal development.
Two coaching books that teach us the benefits of leaving the comfort zone
There are many well-known books on the subject, but far from repeating the same books that you have probably already heard of, I am going to recommend two, which may not be so well known, but have a very powerful message to give:
"Coaching for success: the 4 steps to change your life", by Marina R Pinto.
From Marina R. Pintoa Spanish author, addresses each of the elements that make up personal coaching in such a simple and digestible way, that it will become your best tool to become a different person. The reading is quite agile and it is written in second person, which makes it a quite funny book. It talks about turning your life around in 4 steps:
Step 1: Become a more optimistic person.
Negative thoughts and attitudes are the first predators of dreams. That's why it's important to start thinking more positively and start being more optimistic, no matter what circumstances you're going through.
And while that's easier said than done, this book gives the reader the tools to learn to be more positive, this book provides the reader with the tools to learn how to be more positive, specifying the differences between thought, emotion and emotion.The book explains the differences between thought, emotion and feeling, among other aspects, such as the influence that our own beliefs have on ourselves.
Step 2: Clean your life of everything that gets in your way
Negative thoughts, counterproductive emotions, bad habits? In this part we propose you to eliminate everything that doesn't do you good and prevents you from fulfilling your dreams.. He will also talk to you about the fear of failure and how to face it if it appears.
Step 3: Be proactive
Without action, you will not be able to clear the way to achieve your dreams.. This is the life lesson from which the third step draws. In this part the author will talk about how to get organized to plan your goals, what steps to take, planning techniques to make extra time for your projects, and most importantly, how to get out of your comfort zone to start your new life.
Step 4: The path is more important than the destination
The unspoken message of this fourth step lies in the importance of understanding the importance of understanding what is more important than fulfilling our dreams.. Obviously achieving a desired goal is very rewarding, but it is even more rewarding to realize that along the way, after overcoming obstacles and finding solutions, we have grown as people. The main objective of the last chapter is to invite us to reflect on our own actions.
If you are interested, you can purchase the book at this link.
"30 days: change your habits, change your life", by Marc Reklau
Marc Reklau proposes you in this book to acquire a new habit every day to help you start walking through the world in a different way. The book is made up of about 90 short chapters, very easy and quick to read. The topics it deals with are very similar to those of the book "Coaching for Success": negative thoughts, achieving goals, new habits to contribute to our psychological health, personal growth, etc.
To buy the book, click on this link
(Updated at Apr 13 / 2024)